Having come from an abusive background I spent most of my life not recognizing unsafe people. I don’t mean the ones who will rob, beat, steal and rape you - but the ones who say they’re your friend, then betray, use or abandon you. They’re generally charming, funny, intelligent or have some great first glance personality gold going for them. Then you need them, or trust them or interact with them and they disappear, withdraw or leave. You know the ones. We’ve ALL encountered them. Some of them have been …