It’s a funny thing about the word “No.” Some people have no ear for it. They’re blind and deaf and never seem to get it or hear it. Or if they hear it, they don’t listen. They keep charging onward like bulls in a china shop, destroying more relationships and opportunities in the process. So let’s recap something. When someone tells you they no longer want to be your friend, or your partner, or your buddy, or your business partner and you can’t resolve things at that stage, then it’s …

“If only _____ would change, stop doing ____, or start doing _____, everything would be okay.”
Sound familiar? It’s been years since I worked for a big company, or even a small one, but no matter what the size the dominant conversations among employees were always about someone else’s behavior or habits or personality and how if so-and-so would JUST change this or that, the world would be a better place.
Maybe you’re in a relationship where that’s your dominant thought: “If my spouse, partner, significant other would just change …

Fools are some of the smartest people I know. I know. I used to be one and still am from time-to-time. Fools are also some of the most talented, brightest and seemingly intelligent people in the room. Yet they are still fools and I’ve learned that talking to them, or acting like one, hurts me more than it helps.
What is a fool? I’m using Dr. Henry Cloud’s definition from his most recent book, Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in …

I’ve been reading and rereading Dr. Henry Cloud’s book Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward. If you know me you know I am an avid and passionate Henry Cloud fan and LOVE all his books.
This particular book is about “Endings,” what they are, how we navigate them, why we avoid them. It’s about what we can learn from ending the jobs, the relationships and the projects and dreams that all of us have to give …