How to Write a Book

Writing a book is both incredibly easy, and difficult at the same time. Why? Because your story is in you - that's the easy part. The difficult part is getting what you want to say onto paper. I don't mean the physical ACT of writing. I mean the emotional, psychological part. That's what stops most people from actually finishing their book.

Many of the clients who come to me tell me, "I started a book and things went fine, then I got writer's block, or I feel stuck." I say, "Let me guess. You got to about chapter three before all that happened."

They're shocked, then surprised, and ask, "How did you know?" Because chapter three is about the comfort zone or limit for most people. They are comfortable enough with enough material or stories, or whatever to write about three chapters. The "stuck" they experience after that is fear — fear of failing, of being laughed at, of being told they're not good enough, or qualified enough, or capable of not only completing this huge project but of completing it successfully. They are their own writer's block. 

Writing isn't just about putting together words and ideas. It's about putting yourself, your ideas, your thoughts, experiences, beliefs, past, present, and future out there for the world to see. And the world can be a mean place. It can laugh, bully, criticize and attack you for what you write — or not. Most of the fears people have about their books include being sued, hated or laughed at, etc.. And, 99% of their fears never come true. If you're bullied or get negative reviews most likely it's from people who are jealous and unable to write their own book. Ignore them.

Another thing I point out to people is that they don't have to write what they publish. Or they can publish it and only give it to people they trust or love. You don't have to decide to publish your book until it's actually written. So, that should remove some pressure. Think of writing a book like undertaking an adventure - like a hike, a camping trip, driving cross-country. Do it one step at a time, one day at a time, one word at a time. You CAN do it. It will be difficult - or else everyone would do it. But with the right instruction, coaching, and steps, you can write a book. It doesn't have to be long. It can be 50 pages, or 75, 100, or longer. It's up to you.